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Attention Single Mothers: Maturity in Your Walk Required

Being a single mother myself there have been some days that I have wanted to scream because it seems like everything happens all at once. I still have two minor children left to raise and one who is an adult but very young and still needs my guidance to an extent so there are some long tough days. Then I have the challenge of trying to maintain a civil and Godly relationship with the father of my younger two. I call it a challenge because not every man knows the meaning of responsibility and sacrifice for their children so there have been many times I've just had to trust God. The fact that the child support enforcement agency has to even exist is sad to me. It makes me sick that some men feel that because child support "didn't come out of their check" they get a pass not to take care of their kids.  You will let some man in a robe tell you how much you need to pay to take care of YOUR children and that's your definition of being a good father? Being a good parent is more than that, it's emotional, spiritual and Financial. Why does anyone have to FORCE you to take care of your kids? When I hear that garbage from My ex husband about what the child support agency isn't doing especially at a time when I need help and he hasn't been doing his fair share,  my flesh wants choke him until he passes out, but my God says no. We must take on the same attitude of Christ Jesus in every situation. Take up your cross and keep walking. The good news is and I love this part, we have a Savior. His name is Jesus, the Annointed One who had to bear that cross. We don't. To truly trust God means to cast ALL your  burdens on him. He will carry you.  Don't go and stir up trouble because your kids father won't do right he will have his portion that is up to God not us.  Don't bad mouth him in front of your kids. Allow him to see his kids and spend time with them. Treat him with kindness regardless and you will receive your blessings from God. Then you will look at his life and visibly be able to see that man walking in a curse that he brought on himself due to his own bad decisions in his life and disobedience to God. It will have absolutely nothing to do with you, just keep walking in the spirit. Remember, God is our provider. Ultimately who are you hurting when you keep a child away from their  dad who wants that relationship? The child is being hurt and I know that's not your purpose. However when we don't do things Gods way, we end up hurting the people we love the most, including ourselves. Don't let that irresponsible man block your blessings. You chose that man, not Jesus and definitely not your kids.  That's the problem, not allowing The Lord to choose our husbands, but that's another topic. This can be reversed as there are single fathers out there as well. When you walk in the spirit your actions will become more Christlike and you will find peace in a bad situation with someone. Pray and ask Father to help you deny your flesh and handle the situation the way He desires you to handle it.  As mothers, we are worriers by nature, but didn't God say "I will never leave nor foresake you?"  This means we are NEVER alone and a home where kids are being raised with God as the head, is surely not a broken home, so stop letting this world make you feel that you are broken just because you don't have a spouse, let God help you raise your children. Leave that messy man alone he is going to continue doing what he has always done, nothing and blaming everybody else for his shortcomings. Why get mad about it? Don't even argue with him keep your business off Facebook, and Let that go. Don't let your fleshly emotions take control. You must be the mature Christian in the situation with the attitude of Jesus. Go to our heavenly Father and ask for help. You will be blessed and your children as well.  Let the peace of The Lord be with you.

Don't worry about anything, but in EVERYTHING, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God    Phillipians 4:6

 Our daily prayer...

 Heavenly Father help me to accept the things that I cannot change. Let me be a woman of peace in every situation. I thank you Jesus for the gift of  salvation and for being my provider and loving Father and Lord of my life. Let me not be discouraged and act out in anger during times of distress. Let me take on the attitude of Your son Jesus Christ, who died for my sins. In Jesus name 

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